28 February 2010

what to name it ... !!!!!!!!!!

its been months , almost 45 days since i made my last post .... m really was not in any mood to blog ... but then i have been brought up again to blog .... no one is the reason behind it ... but just a few self realisations ... not to be told ....some things are better untold ....

let me talk about a few things ....

one of them is lying to your buddies .... the prime rule of lying that has always been is that either you lie very efficiently that you are never caught .... cuz ur close buddy can always spot u lying ... or else dont let ur lie ever get to that person from whom you want it to be kept unknown .... so this way ur buddy never gets to know that u lied and also he wont ever feel bad about it ... cuz buddies are always there for the best .....
now if the case is not so and the friend finds out that u lied to him ... now here is where the we get some differences .... cuz u 've been great buddies all time and even though you never wanted to hurt him, he invariably gets hurt on this .... obviously the friend is not mandating you to tell him every part of ur life or share it with him.... but what a friend expects from you is that you dont lie to him .... never ....
its easier to hide something from ur buddies rather faking it .... such small incidents leave away a big dent in the art of friendship .... and if your friend completely easy taking types...then man ur lucky to have such a friend ...and if not , then ur surely goin to have a tough time explaining him .... obviously it wont take a minute to walk off from the conversation but once u walk off unexplained then it means u walked off the relationship that u shared with him/her till now ....
in any kind of friendship or a relationship , there should be some free space for both the persons ... u cant force someone in the name of care and attachments ... no one is a kid that they cant take care of self ... this is the point in some relationships where you cant hold on to one forever if you dont let down go of ur ego and possessiveness... everyone is possessive for their friends but there is a gentle way of making it known to them .... but if the only way you find to express that is ur rude and wasted behaviour.. then ur gonna end up losing them ... so better stay negligent for sometime than letting go off such wonderful friendships....
in all relationships , there are some strings attached.... strings that decide what u can do, what u cant, how u shud do, and how u shudnt ... and et al .... but when there comes the time to let go off those strings... we shackle ... we tend not to loosen those nots .... cuz we are afraid of losing them ..... but the thing we dunt realise is that the more we let people free and lonely .... they get to miss us more and then is that they realise what they actually had left unnoticed ... so at times keeping strings open, lets others free and also shows our trust on them... the friend needs to realise how much trust do we have on them... and this makes the relationship tick longer than thought and longer than meant for ...

if all of this doesnt make any sense to u ... i wont apologise ... cuz this is not meant for all ... this is sometimes that happens to all of us ... just that some of us blog this down... some write diaries ... some cry it out ... some puff it and boozze it ... some fuck it off ... but at the end there is someone or something that takes its toll on us at such situations ....

amen ....

5 comments:

Vishnu said...

all i can say is "ahem ahem"

AMUL BADJATYA ( JAIN ) said...

good one hari.. thanks for penning down what i have felt for so long...I relate this to .."If all men count with you but none too much" ...giving space to other person is all about it...

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